Have you ever found yourself in a season of transition—where the path behind you is no longer working, but the path ahead feels uncertain and unclear? That frustrating in-between phase is often called the “messy middle.” And if you're there right now, you're not alone.
In a recent episode of the Work It, Live It, Own It podcast, I sat down with transformational coach and leadership strategist Sabine Gedeon to unpack what it really means to grow through life’s messier moments.
What Is the “Messy Middle”?
Sabine describes the messy middle as the space where your current identity is no longer serving you, but you haven’t yet fully stepped into your next level. It’s uncomfortable. It’s filled with doubt. And it’s necessary.
“Growth doesn’t happen in the comfort zone. The messy middle is where your new identity is being formed,” Sabine says.
Why the Messy Middle Matters
So many people try to rush through this phase or bypass it altogether, but Sabine warns against that mindset. She encourages us to reframe the messy middle as a powerful time of reflection, realignment, and identity work. Rather than being a detour, it's actually a sign that you're on the right track.
3 Key Takeaways from Our Conversation:
Growth is not linear. The idea that you’ll move from point A to point B without struggle is a myth. The messy middle is part of the journey, not a sign of failure.
You need to lead yourself first. Self-leadership is about being honest with where you are and who you’re becoming. That means taking ownership of your mindset, your decisions, and your boundaries—even when things feel uncertain.
Transformation requires letting go. The version of you that got you here may not be the one who can take you forward. That means shedding old beliefs, roles, or relationships that no longer serve your growth.
Encouragement for Anyone in Transition
If you’re currently in the messy middle, Sabine’s message is simple but powerful: keep going. You are not stuck—you are shifting. Trust that the process is shaping you for what’s next.
Want More?
You can listen to the full episode of Work It, Live It, Own It wherever you get your podcasts.
Learn more about Sabine Gedeon and her work at sabinegedeon.com.
